While I do not claim to be a "fully enlightened being", I have been blessed with many teachers and I have found a clear sense of purpose and vision after half a lifetime of fear, frustration, anger, addiction, and self-sabotage. My teachers have taken many forms: Local mentors, great books, Native American/Lakota teachers, the calm and heat of the desert, sound healers, meditative practice, conferences/seminars and the basic joys and challenges of life.
Some of the most cathartic realizations/changes I have experienced have come in the silence of meditation. While some might call the clarity felt in these moments as “channeling”, it is my sense that the words and feelings that have come to me do not necessarily have an external source: my truth is that the deepest wisdom comes from within us. We simply are challenged to recognize this source and trust its high value.
Having spent so much of the earlier times in my life in what some might call a living hell, my inspiration is to offer ideas and encouragement to others who intend to have a life of more presence, calm, trust and love. I believe that all this is possible, particularly when one builds a sense of value for the wisdom that is within.
I welcome your questions and feedback.
This is something very simple that I encourage you to play with. It is a framework---easily tweaked by you to fit who you are---for creating deeper connections with others. Please share this with those who may be receptive. It's about nurturing Us.
The Conscious Connection Exercise
A new and powerful practice to raise your own level of consciousness and the collective consciousness at the same time. Tap into your own power.
* It is simple, powerful and effective!
* Do it with a friend or loved one.
* Or do it with a mirror.
* Or do it alone with your eyes closed.
It's simple and effective. It is and will remain free.
The Conscious Connection Exercise
When you see this icon, it is suggesting that you close your eyes and pause for reflection/heart connection as you read this for the first time.
Please read this entire process before starting to practice it.
My intent with this exercise is to provide an enjoyable spiritual health practice that you find worthy of your time and commitment As a culture, we are still learning to practice mutual support effectively. By support, I mean the simple showing of respect for, love for and agreement with others. Practicing these things expands our communal consciousness. Expanding this consciousness is, I believe, at least a large part of what we are here to do. It is really about what the road to 2012 is all about. In the time leading up to December 21, 2012 we are learning how to connect more fully with our loving selves and each other.
I believe that it is spiritually helpful to accept as truth the idea that all virtues are anchored in the heart. And that we simply are challenged to identify with the heart as who we are at depth. I see the heart as the pulsing of my soul. In choosing to conceptualize it in this way, I get a higher level of clarity and comfort with the mystery!
Please pause and consider this with your heart: How do I identify myself?
Is identifying with my heart an effective way of conceptualizing who I am?
If growing in awareness of what is truly important---becoming more loving, for
example---how do we conceptualize our essence in the most effective way?
How do we get better in touch with the callings of the heart? It makes sense to my heart that it would serve me to make such an understanding with the heart a priority in my life. So I ask you now to pause with me and consider whether it makes sense to your heart to prioritize---put at the top of the list----the unfolding of your loving nature.
How do we GET there, to the completeness of it All? One powerful tool is found in the creation of spiritual alliances with others. The other facet of this exercise has to do with connecting with your deepest self frequently.
Here is how the practice unfolds:
Take a look at the list and choose one of the attributes or virtues that you would like to expand within yourself. Or choose another word that fits what you intend to be more of in your life.
Use the word you chose to fill in the blank below.
I am this ____________________.
With closed eyes and one hand on your heart, repeat this short sentence out loud for a few minutes when you are alone, pausing briefly between each repetition. When you affirm that you are this virtue, you acknowledge your resonance. I call this a power statement.
As you slowly repeat these words, just listen to what you are saying, hearing with your heart. Focus your attention there. Feel your heart AS you. If it feels right, you might choose to do this for up to 3 minutes. As you smile during as much or as little of this pactice as you wish, notice how your sense of power and confidence grows.
Day Two: Repeat the same power statement using the same word as on the first day, saying this power declaration for three to ten minutes, whatever feels right to you. There is no need to use a clock unless you are concerned about getting totally lost in time! Which might be a good thing! It helps to have a smile on your face during some or all of this time. Do that to the extent that it feels comfortable, and notice any mood changes.
Day Three: Repeat the same power statement again, looking deep into your own eyes in a mirror, getting your nose within a foot (or even less—play with it) of the mirror, if possible. Two minutes this time will be fine. Trust yourself to know when enough is enough.
Day Four: Repeat the practice with the mirror. Again, two minutes is sufficient.
On Day 5, you begin looking for an ally in this practice, someone who will initially simply sit with you as you gaze into each others’ eyes with a loving feeling in your hearts, each taking a turn to express your power statement. On the 5th and 6th days, choose a friend who agrees to simply sit with you and lovingly absorb the power of your intent as you express the same power statement for just one minute. The person chosen has the opportunity to simply agree to be with you for one minute, two days in a row. (This can be done by phone or videophone, if necessary.)
Please do not get into the potential ongoing aspects of this practice with any prospective practice partners who are just becoming familiar with it. That can be discussed after you have completed the two days of one minute practice with them.
Each of you agrees to admire and respect the heart of the other, intending to project love to each other and to accept that love deeply at the same time. You explain that this small process is something that is important to you and that they are someone you trust and appreciate. These alliances are intended to foster the loving unfoldment of each person participating. If the person you ask to join you in this is not willing, please quickly back off. It is always an unquestioned choice absent pressure.
There is absolutely no pressure on you to find a partner in this process on this fifth day. If you do not create a partner, simply repeat the mirror part of the practice until you do enroll a partner. No pressure ever.
After you have expressed your power statement on the 6th day, your partner, should they accept, is then given the opportunity to learn the process. You simply refer them to this website or give them a printed copy of this practice. On the same day that your prospective partner agrees to experiment beyond the simple sitting with you, they start from Day One as you did---by their self---choosing a word to create their own power statement. Alone, they continue through another day of saying the statements and two more days of saying them with a mirror, just as you did when getting started. During this time, you might choose to practice alone with the mirror. On the fourth day, if they are willing, you connect to reflect each other and/or they can find another partner.
After a few days, you might talk about whether If your you both are willing to agree to join in this regularly. If that looks like a fit, then you can choose how often to meet. Early on, some may wish to do it daily. Some might choose once or twice weekly. Come to a mutual decision and also commit to how many weeks you are willing to do this. Consider keeping the initial agreement to a week or two. You can always choose to renew it. The key is to set commitments that you know you will keep.
You trust yourself.
How the Practice Works With a Partner
First, each spends a minute projecting their power statement, with the other absorbing in a loving, receptive way. Having a timer can be helpful. Trust your sense of how to deal with timing. No worries, please, if you do a little less or more than a minute.
On the phone or internet voice communication
As your partner expresses their power statement, you softly whisper it with them. Feel your connection with this person. Project love. You each take a turn in expressing.
Being with your partner in the flesh is preferred but not necessary.
As you sit with them, whisper the words they are saying along with them. See the other as they express their power statement as now having that attribute or virtue. Feel that you have it, too! Let your eyes show your acceptance, respect, love and trust of the other. Let your body posture and facial expression project calm power: Smile, shoulders back, chin up. Project love. Maintain eye contact to the extent that you are comfortable.
You each take a turn in expressing.
Note: the virtue or attribute can change each time you do this, or you can stick with one of them indefinitely. It is suggested that you stick with your original attribute for at least a week.
The total time with each partner once you have established the desire to meet regularly is 3 minutes.
- One minute for each of you to express you power statements, and
- One minute for each of you to, with the other, silently sending loving energy to a person or group of your choosing:
Take a very brief time after both of you have expressed the first part to tell the other to whom you will be sending loving energy. Remember, as you choose, that the so-called “bad guys” and challenging people in your life are worth loving. Each partner expresses aloud to the other to whom they will be sending loving energy.
Then, silently, both envision a white light projecting from their own heart to a person or group. The targets of your loving intent can change each time or remain the same for as long as you wish.
Hugs or a warm handshake are great ways to complete your partner practice.
Practice this for at least two weeks before creating additional partners for this one-on-one practice. Pick up to seven people with whom you agree to do this, never pushing anyone in the slightest of ways to do this if they do not wish to do so.
There is no pressure to add practice partners at any particular pace. You will tend to sense the right people to approach. One or two may be just right for you.
The last part of this practice is completely optional, but highly recommended: Each participant, every morning will remind themselves of something or someone for whom they are grateful. And then each evening think of something that they forgive in themselves or another. This might be easiest to remember if you place a small sign on either side of bedroom mirror or some place you will see it upon arising and before going to sleep. One sign is “I am grateful for…..” The other, “I forgive….”
Time spent on this can be as little as 10 seconds or as long as you wish. You may start a meditation with it, or just briefly choose the idea. You might send out loving energy from the heart to the focus of your forgiveness or gratitude, especially if the target is yourself. In this case, you might choose to focus all your loving energy on your heart as you feel it radiating its love throughout your body and mind.
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To manifest your vision, look for opportunities to nurture it. See it as already complete in your mind’s eye. Its particularly effective to visualize this upon arising in the morning and as you prepare to sleep. Getting more and more consistent in keeping your word to yourself about what you will do is a key to manifesting your intentions. When you trust yourself, your world will tend to help you to create more effectively.
- I suggest that you consider getting into the daily habit of taking one of the ideas in the CD or in one of my books and playing with it via the heart.
- You also might consider gradually adding new spiritual practices to your life: You might start with an uplifting thought to begin the day, and a brief idea to meditate upon before sleep.
- As soon as you commit to a new habit, the Universe will tend to test you: How serious are you about being consistent with a new, positive habit? Ego may throw a little hissy fit, coming up with apparently rational justifications for dropping your intentions.
- Another possible ego manifestation: Taking on too much, then feeling overwhelmed, then ditching the whole set of habits you had intended to create for yourself.
- When feeling stressed or overwhelmed, I suggest using these simple tools:
- Do a minute of deep breathing. *
- Do a minute of the cross crawl. * See the video half-way down the page at http://www.happinesspages.com/brain-gym-exercises.html#cross-crawl You can touch hand to knee or, if you can handle it, elbow to knee. This is great for times when you feel spacey or distracted.
- Get plenty of water. How much? Divide your weight in half. The number you get is the minimum number of ounces of water per day to drink if you want to be properly hydrated. If you are very physically active, you will want to drink more than that.
- Another great and quick exercise for mental clarity and focus: Balancing the brain cortices. See the video (click on the blue icon--second shown video) at http://www.bodytalksystem.com/videos/category.cfm?id=4 Its about 12 minutes. I encourage you to experiment with doing it at least three times daily for a week and notice any changes in your clarity, groundedness and alertness.
- * When starting any new exercise, be aware of what your body is telling you. If you have any physical challenges or are taking prescription medication, check with your doctor before doing these exercises. For a description of the cross crawl, search "brain gym."
It's in the headlines every day: violence, flooding, earthquakes, climate changes, unstable financial markets, and other events that have tended to provoke our fears. What do you do, what do you think when faced with these facts of life?
Fear can be a powerful motivator. It can motivate us to take proactive steps to empower ourselves. Or it can motivate us to find escape through drugs, manipulation of others, or distractions such as meaningless television watching, reading empty novels, or simply just tuning out.
In the face of these challenges in front of us in this most pivotal time in the history of our world, most feel powerless. We also allow our leaders to often manipulate us through fear.
Maybe its time for more of us to wise up. I am not talking about head wisdom, brain wisdom, or getting to a more logical mindset. My suggestion to you is that we live our daily lives with heart wisdom. That is the kind of wisdom that surrenders to the love of the heart, not the general masochism of our insecure, fearful minds.
The logical mind just doesn't get that. So my point here is that, as a collective body, the human race will be served to move along the progression from fear to prudence to trust. Most of us on this planet have been conditioned to be fearful. Please do not mistake prudence for fear. You avoid riding your bike on a dark and busy street not because you are fearful, but because you value your life!
When you trust yourself, it is easier to trust the world and what it presents to you. Even the situations that are painful need not be ones of suffering. The great philosopher Alan Watts said: "Because human consciousness must involve both pleasure and pain, to strive for pleasure to the exclusion of pain is, in effect, to strive for the loss of consciousness."
Consider the possibility, please, that consciousness may be about making the wisdom of the heart more important than living the destructive insecurity of the mind.
Research has proven that over half of the human heart is composed of neurons like the ones in our brain. The electromagnetic field created by your heart extends up to 25 feet away from your body. Each beat of your heart creates about 2 ½ watts of electrical energy. There have been studies that have shown conclusively that the heart and brain communicate with each other. For an overview of this, see http://www.heartmath.org/
I challenge you to consider how you identify yourself. Are you your mind or body? From my perspective, they are simply vehicles for the Spirit. The next time you are stressed out or have a challenge with anxiety, consider doing this: Sit quietly and focus on your heart for even a few minutes, imagine it to be a wonderful source for love and peace. Close your eyes, put a smile on your face, letting the calm and peace expand. Then send that feeling to your heart. Choose to identify with your heart, rather than your head. Did you notice any changes in how you feel?
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The downside to even some of the most respected spiritual teachers of our time is that most of them, in the name of advancing their work, leave out one of the most crucial lessons of all in our learning to live enlightened lives. What many gurus and religions omit or downplay in their teachings is that the most powerful source for calm, wisdom and happiness resides within each of us. All we have to do is trust it..Received a message today from Bill Donahue of HiddenMeanings.com and I share it with you here because there is much power in it. There are some aspects that may be seen as very wise. And like so much else in this life that has wonderful meaning for us,as I see it, it misses the mark at the very end.
In this era of massive change, it is good to be aware that there are very few sources of complete spiritual truth. The vast majority of those who call themselves spiritual teachers miss at least a small and crucial element of the total picture. While I have no reason to doubt Mr. Donahue's integrity---in fact, I fully trust his integrity---there are all kinds of guru types, teachers and channels for "benevolent alien beings" whose surface mesages look innocent enough and well-intended but are either extremely misguided or simply corrupt in their intent..Society's institiutions have demonized much that is good and they have ripped out the core of our greatest teachers' lessons, especially those of Jesus..What's important in all this is to tune in to your own heart and trust your intuitive sense as to whose words you will trust. Blindly following anybody or any teaching is simply for fools. What you are here, in part, to do, is to learn how to trust your inner guidance, the wisdom of your essence, above all else..There are people out in the world who call themselves enlightened or channels or gurus. The vast majority of those who put such a label on themselves are simply either deluded or fraudulent. Their lesson to you is simple: "You need to trust my brand of truth. I know better than you." And that lesson, after you have seen through it, is transformed into this one: "Trust your inner guidance." As a culture, we have never been taught the importance of doing so. We've been told that we must find our wisdom, calm and happiness outside of ourselves..Self-proclaimed gurus are almost always disingenuous. A guru doesn't have to tell anyone he is a guru. His--or her--presence speaks for itself..Still, we tend to judge gurus and channels by how much they pump up our enthusiasm, inspire optimism, present hopeful eventualities. Our capacity for gullibility has been huge. And the reason it has been so vast is that we have refused to trust our own power and trust our own wisdom..There had been a number of channels and supposedly even a crop circle predicting something very shifting happening last Saturday at the Olympics. There was going to be, it was said, an indisputable demonstration of a benevolent alien presence on our planet. Major hopes were built up: Finally, the good guy aliens were going to save our sorry asses from the mess we have created...And that is not how the story is going to culminate. We are not going to be saved by a superior alien armada nor are we going to be saved by some bearded god who will fly down from the heavens on a bolt of lightning. We are going to save ourselves by facing ourselves, by trusting our Selves, trusting our true power..Ask your heart what you might learn and integrate from the following Bill Donahue article and also ask how the last sentence of the article works for you. It will work fine for some, and not at all for others as they tune in to their own truth. I suggest that you try tuning into YOUR truth with this one. I ask you do to this BEFORE you read my comments in purple at the end of Donahues' article..Much of Bill's work is shown at hiddenmeanings.com, a website with many wonderful and empowering messages. Some of it is simply amazing in its' clarity and wisdom. Lots of it you might find very easy to accept. Other aspects may seem a little foreign or even upsetting..Maybe the most spiritually profitable way to look at it all is to trust your inner guidance as to what works for you. And to then throw the rest away..Again, I will make it clear: I see Bill Donahue as a man of great integrity and service. What can you learn from this article and what, if anything, can you just let go of?--To:Carlo AmiSubject: 60 59 Hidden Meanings 12 We Volunteer To Die.We have chosen of our own free will to be totallydestroyed by our fear of each other and our fearof ourselves..Regardless of where we live there is a power thatwould control everything we do. And we let them.We submit to whatever has become tradition for us..And we call it traditional values, even though it isdestroying us as it has destroyed those who camebefore us..We believe whatever we are told.I get frustrated when people write telling me howold they are and they are getting near the end ofthe line. That is bull dropped on us by ignorantpeople. You are not any age. You are just you..But it is dangerous to keep referring to age becauseyou have intelligent conscious beings inside of youcalled cells..Cells are intelligent. They know when you are frightened, worried, mad, happy, and they operate your inner electrical system based on those things. They read your DNA and send workers to various points inside of you to carry out those instructions..So you tell your cells how old you are. And they understand and start working to break things down. Because your always commenting on how old you're getting..But where does this nonsense come from. It is all man made.Let me quote from Zechariah Sitchins book The 12th Planet. Page 80Although the Egyptians counted by the decimal system, their religious affairs were governed by the Sumerian sexagesimal 60, and celestial matters were subject to the divine number 12..Now let's go to Wikipedia and get some information about sexagesimal 60 and 12..Sexagesimal (base 60) is a numeral system with sixty as its base. It originated with the ancient Sumerians in the 3rd millennium BC, it was passed down to the ancient Babylonians, and it is still used — in a modified form — for measuring time, angles, and geographic coordinates...So just think for a minute.If their holy number was 30 and there were 30 seconds in a minute and 30 minutes in a hour, you would be twice as old as you think you are now.Now you have 12 months in the year. 12 hours in the day, 12 hours in the night..Where did that come from?Again Wikipedia:It is possible for people to count on their fingers to 12 using one hand only, with the thumb pointing to each finger bone on the four fingers in turn. A traditional counting system still in use in many regions of Asia works in this way, and could help to explain the occurrence of numeral systems based on 12 and 60 besides those based on 10, 20 and 5.Do you see how all of this man made stuff developed?People counting on their fingers to decide how old you are.You believing that must be your age..Your cells beginning to break down your body based on this nonsense..Sure we have to use numbers for schedules to keep appointments etc.But when you apply it to your body, you are creating trouble..We have voluntarily submitted to all forms of nonsense that keeps uscaptive to things that other people made up..Kahlil Gibran was a Lebanese writer who wrote about how we as humanshave voluntarily submitted to all of the false rules and doctrines of otherhumans, including religious and also as we know, commercial..From his book A Treasure of Kahlil Gibran he said this..PLEASE TAKE THE TIME TO READ THIS. IT IS VERY IMPORTANT FOR YOU.Man is weak by his own handFor he has refashioned God's law into his own confining manner of lifeChaining himself with coarse irons of the rules of society which he desired.He is steadfast in refusing to be aware of the great tragedy he has castupon himself and his children..Man has erected on this earth a prisonA prison of quarrels from which he cannot now escapeAnd misery is his voluntary lotDo you see?We have made ourselves weak by allowing the pure light of God to be made into organizations that hate and fear each other. That fill us with fear.Year after year after year we watch as the violence against nature and against each other becomes the staple of our pride and our patriotism..Truly we are confined within the carnal mind from which we cannot escapeand in that mind prison we make up all kinds of God rules and we haveno awareness that the very devil we are taught to fear is us..Only when we are willing to abandon the doctrines that have made lifea violent prison , and enter within to rise above all of the rules, andconcepts, of tradition may we finally find the light that is what wecall God..The other inmates will not understand us and in fact they will screamat us to willingly stay behind the bars with them where they willinglyhuddle together..But if you separate from them and follow the instructions of Jesus Christconcerning the inner kingdom and the single eye then as he said, you willknow the truth and the truth will set you free..Bill*****************************************************************My response to Bill's message:I am with you all the way....until the last sentence, Bill. That's where it falls apart for me.As long as we make our life about following some guidance that comes from outside of us we are lost.Following some rule or commandment or teaching that comes from a book or someone who has walked the Earth is a form of spiritual masturbation. As we choose to live our lives consciously through internal guidance and responding with love to the thoughts and events in our lives, we unfold our powerful, loving nature..We are being asked to live in a way that honors the loving and connected nature of the Self, the Divine Self. Almost all religions, Christianity in particular, have done more to encourage our aloneness, ourunworthiness, our fear and our sense of separation from God and the rest of humanity than any of our other institutions..It is not nearly so important what they have written down in their books as how they treat their flock of human sheep: They manipulate, abuse and divide them from each other. And that is the exact opposite of what any worthy religion would do..Religion has become a spiritual parasite on the collective spiritual body of humankind. We are learning how to let it out of our lives, to get rid of it..I have received much in the way of powerful insight from you and your website. But the Jesus thing is where you miss, brother. I say this not to judge, but simply to observe, as your humble equal.Bless you.-Carlo Ami**********************************************************************One last point, my friends: Language has been used to clarify and to confuse. When used without care, it can mislead without intent. When an intended writing of inspiration invokes only the name of one spiritual icon, then those who may follow another guru or perceived deity are left out, divided apart.It's not that we should remember to name all possible deities or spiritual leaders when writing such words, but to leave all of them out of the picture. We need not put a name on God. There are no deities that need or even want us to worship them. We cannot offend any god. A major aspect of why we are here is to learn how to trust our inner guidance, our divine nature and our equal, interconnected nature with all that is.Will you choose to trust that your nature is equal and divine?..Are you willing to live your life in a way that reflects this knowing?..***********************************************************************************.There is much of value on hiddenmeanings.com Dear readers, I suggest that you check it out, making use of that which resonates with your heart and letting go of anything else..For more articles about religion and spiritaul empowerment, see this one from the blog for starters:
Starting July 24, I will be presenting local Pause Sessions in the San Diego area.
July 24--Leucadia/Encinitas, CA 7 pm-8:30 pm. Private residence a minute off Highway 5. RSVP for address.
The intent of these groups is to...
* provide a framework to assist you in your own self-discovery, calmness, happiness and wisdom. (no dogma here)
* to explore ideas about what is facing us that we can feel good about agreeing upon and sharing
* to provide a venue for connection with like-minded beings with whom we can enjoy relating
Pause Session Format
"My experience with Carlo Ami’s Pause Session Evenings was highly transformational and spiritually lifting. He asked questions that really challenged my perception of self and the conditioning that I took on from the world, and provided the silent time to really tune into the segments in each series of ideas. Carlo has a way of bringing great passion, simple structure and innovative questions that helped me "tune in" as he says. After experiencing two of these programs, I highly recommend these Pause Session Evenings, even multiple times."
----Scott Masters San Diego, CA
As groups are scheduled in the San Diego County area, they will be updated here.
Thursday, July 19 Pause Sessions w Carlo Ami
Shiloh Spiritual Center, San Diego. 7 pm-8 pm = Presentation 8-8:30 Discussion/Questions/Social Write Carlo at the address below to reserve a seat. Seats will be held until 7:05 when the presentation will begin. Directions link will be posted here shortly.